On this journey we often get focused on the word union and working towards this union. It becomes our goal whether it is achieving union within yourself or union with another person but really this is not our goal, it is only a milestone to be achieved, the real goal is maintaining union. When we focus on attaining union we are focusing on a constant state, but energy flows, it is not constant, it continuously changes, sometimes it moves slowly and sometimes it moves quickly but the only constant is that it will change. We work towards this goal of union but then what? The union is not the end of the story. I often see the tarot card of 4 of wands as a union card, it can represent a joining together in union with someone, a celebration of marriage, a building of a solid foundation but it is not a completion card, it recognises that you have achieved something and now you can build on that foundation you have built. This is the same with union whether it be within yourself or with another person, you have to learn how to build on this and maintain that sense of union.
On this journey to achieving the union within ourselves, we don’t just heal old wounds from this and past lives, we learn how to heal ourselves, we learn all the tools we need to be able to heal from situations, events and people that affect us or cause us harm or karma. We learn how to manage our energies, both in the sense of recognising when we are needing to heal ourselves, when we are not feeling whole within ourselves, when there is a potential lesson and when we need to assess something. We learn to listen to our intuition and tune into ourselves. We get to learn about ourselves on such a deep level, how we process things, how we react, our feelings, the things that matter to us deep down and we learn about ourselves on a deep spiritual level. We learn how to look after ourselves in mind, body and spirit. When we achieve union in ourselves, these skills are still very valuable to us, we can use these skills to help us maintain our union, to recognise when we are starting to feel out of sorts and to find out why and what you need to do to resolve it, to either stop yourself coming out of union or to bring you back to your inner union. This is no different with a union with another person, and the skills we learnt to achieve and maintain our inner union can help us maintain our union with our partner too.
Maintaining a sense of inner union helps greatly when you are in partnership with another person. When you have this inner union, you are not looking to others to fill any voids or fix something within you, that pressure is released between you as you fix it yourself; you fill the void back up yourself. It is when we fall out of our inner union that we can then project onto others, and those closest to you in connection often receives this projection more. If someone you don’t care about rejects you, because you don’t have much of a connection it doesn’t really bother you much, but because the twin flame connection is very strong a rejection can feel like everything is falling apart, it is felt very intensely. This is why we have been learning about self-care and self-love comes first rather than learning about self-love coming after being in a relationship, you have to learn those skills so that you can maintain your inner union so that you are not projecting anything missing on your counterpart as the connection feels it so much more. When you are in a relationship with someone you have a strong connection with, and you have both achieved and maintained your inner union, you can then come together and build on any foundations that have been started, you do this in a harmonious way because there is no projection left, only love and a willingness to work together on your future happiness.
Some of you may have had mini reunions that seemed to go well and then turn sour again. If you look at why, you may now see that one of you came out of alignment because of losing that sense of inner union and then as a result there was a projection onto the other person. You achieved a union together, but it couldn’t be maintained because although you learnt everything you needed to learn to achieve a union together, you may not have recognised that the real goal was maintenance of union. Now just imagine how powerful it is to recognise when we are starting to lose that sense of inner union, and knowing what we know now, and the skills we have learnt to get us to union, we have the power within us to get back to inner union before any harm is done. Whether we are in a twin flame relationship or not, this is very powerful. So when you start to feel out of sorts remember all those things you have learnt about yourself and all the skills you have learnt to manage your energy. Understand what is causing this out of balance within yourself and keep using the tools you know work best for you, and if you need a time out then take it. It doesn’t matter which tools you use, everyone has their preferences, whether you use affirmations, journaling, meditations, Reiki, tapping, crystal therapy, or any other method, you probably have a number of different methods that you use depending on what you feel guided towards at a particular time, the important thing is to use them. These skills are there for life not just to achieve union.
What you have learnt on this journey is powerful for your whole life, and will help you face any challenges; and regardless on what the rest of your life journey brings you, what you’ve learnt is invaluable, and that is a blessing in itself on this twin flame journey.
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